After reading an essay by Shanon Cook, one may believe that relationships aren't difficult. It felt like a lengthy path to go on as a pair, from the initial meeting to becoming inquisitive and learning more about each other, dating, marriage, and eventually establishing a family together. Will love be able to withstand the test of time? I admire those elderly couples who are still passionately in love after many years together, growing old together and holding to each other's hands as they go for their daily walks.
Is it typical for moms who have recently given birth to be envious of their husbands' sensitive attention and loving looks toward their newborns? It would be reassuring if more women came out to share their stories. What would they do if no one could alleviate their dissatisfaction with their spouses' abrupt changes in behavior? Do they limit the amount of time that infants spend with their fathers?
We should all be sadly aware that love cannot be imposed. It's possible that a newborn's and parent's love isn't romantic. Restricting the amount of time a parent spends with their kid, on the other hand, pushes the parent to conceal their emotions. Those emotions would never be directed towards you. Women can try to talk to their husbands and calmly resolve the situation, or they can suffer the unsatisfactory marriage for the sake of their children.
How can one smile and seem to be cheerful when enduring an unhappy marriage? The key is to replace the discomfort with something more substantial that makes you feel more valuable and content. You can try your hand at entrepreneurship and start your own company. Concentrate on getting your company off the ground and making it a success. When you're lying in bed with your newborn and your spouse comes to check your temperature but his eyes and smiles are fixed on the baby instead of you, remember this.
You could even question if the man you married came to see you because he was worried about the kid or because he was worried about you. Because you're exclusively nursing the baby, every deed, meal, or present your spouse provided or prepared for you is for the baby. When the infant makes little sounds, he runs to the baby and closes the door, keeping you out. You could even start to wonder why you're here in the first place. Is it only for the purpose of feeding the infant that you're here? You couldn't decide if the baby is "our" or "his" baby.
When he has to be away from the baby, he will make many little checks on you, asking, "Is the baby alright?" This makes you feel as if he is watching you like a hawk to see if "his" kid is being well cared for while he is gone. Even after the baby had gone asleep after nursing, he would continuously hop over to check on him without saying anything or giving you a second glance before returning to his remote workstation. You could chuckle to yourself, knowing that all of his kindness and delicate care, while you were extremely pregnant, was for the kid you were carrying in your belly.
You can't make a man pick you over the kid on his own. If all other options have failed and dissolving the marriage is no longer an option, try to have a positive attitude and persevere. Instead of focusing on obtaining a man's adoration, concentrate on accomplishing your objective of being an independent and self-empowered woman who creates her own business from the ground up.
Begin by taking better care of yourself, staying in shape, and loving yourself more. Look stunning even after having baby, and bask in the individualized spotlight that your hard work has brought you. When that happens, you'll look back on your life and wonder why you're sobbing over a mere husband's devotion when you might be in the spotlight.
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